The Prover / Earner Conditional Receiver
The Prover/Earner believes that they must earn and work hard for their worthiness and love. As kids, they are often told to get their heads out of the clouds and that sitting around is wasting time and is lazy.
Provers are driven by the fear that they’re not accomplishing enough or that they’re not achieving enough to meet other people’s expectations and get approval from them. When things aren’t working to their satisfaction, they often think the solution is to work harder, be productive and accomplish more.
- I need to prove that I’m worth it.
- I’m not doing enough. I need to achieve more.
- If I’m not doing something, I’m being lazy.
- I don’t have time to relax.
- I don’t have enough time. I have so much to do.
The Provers/Earner type often shows up when individuals experience a combination of feeling like they cannot meet the demands and expectations of others and are made to believe that success in life can only come from hard work.
This type is likely to rear its head when they don’t get the result they expected after working hard for a goal. Provers will often think they didn’t work hard enough and need to put in more of their time and energy.
This type also likes the high they feel when getting into action and ticking things off their to-do list. This can lead to more action for the sake of feeling alive.
The energy of proving is an imbalance of value and action. There is a perceived lack of value that no amount of doing/action can ever fulfill.
- Have big ideas that are executed on but feel like the results fall short of the vision.
- Dismiss giving themselves credit for their accomplishments… always onto the next project.
- Be overactive, taking on a lot and setting high expectations but often feeling like it’s not enough and they need to do better.
- Have a mind that is racing with new ideas and things to do. This individual has a hard time shutting off their mind, so sleep is elusive.
- Make lists and love seeing things checked off on their lists.
When you hear the words unconditional receiving what thoughts pop into your head?
Are you excited to learn what you need to do to receive more possessions and create more love and freedom in your life?
Unconditional Receiving is:
A deep knowing of your essential nature – a state of love, value, security, fulfillment, and aliveness. It’s about feeling your essential nature so strongly that you express that knowing regardless of the external circumstances.
Yes, it can lead to more material goods and blissful experiences but only because those external experiences are matching your internal frequency of unconditional receiving.
When you are being an Unconditional Receiver you:
- Remember your true identity as Aliveness/Awareness/Love/God
- Live in partnership with your essence (body, mind and soul); allowing a fuller expression of your essential nature through your body
Living in the state of TRUST
Jay came to me recently divorced. He had shared that he didn’t feel like he measured up to the stereotype of what I man should be. He was a sensitive soul who grew up in a part of the country that favored a more rugged, physical demeanor. This past experience and his recent divorce had him doubting his worth.
To try to overcome this perceived lack, John became a Prover. He worked long hours, pushed himself and avoided doing the things he really enjoyed like painting and taking walks in nature. He thought highly of his colleagues and wanted to earn their respect, so he pushed himself to do better work, but he hardly ever gave himself credit for the good work he accomplished. He was looking for approval from his colleagues so that he could feel better about himself. This became a exhausting cycle that never gave Jay the satisfaction and self-confidence he desired.
Through our work together, Jay started to own his worth outright instead of making it conditional on achieving more or getting the approval of others. Doing the things that made his heart sing, like creating art, playing with his daughters, and taking long walks, gave him energy. They nourished him and he felt more like himself. These were some of the ways he valued himself. As he consistently did things that honored who he was, the more confident he felt and his trust in himself grew.
His new attitude influenced all his relationships. He reported improving his relationship with his daughters. His ability to be more compassionate with himself spilled over. Instead of having incredibly high expectations for his girls, mirroring those he had for himself, he was able to meet them where they are in life. He also received more praise for his work from colleagues and was invited to have a few of his paintings exhibited.